I can't imagine that a therapist would actually suggest that he reach out to her in some way. The story doesn't add up, but that's to be expected considering.
I'm sure the therapist did say something like "think about forgiveness towards Taylor" and he, being delusional, interpreted it as "I need to write my feelings in a song and send it to her so she can finally understand why she caused me pain, and only then, if she responds positively, I'll forgive her."
Any person practiced in forgiveness knows the act doesn't involve the other person at all, and isn't conditionally based on them doing anything.
It is a choice you make internally within yourself, by accepting they have hurt you and choosing not to hold on to the negative feeling of resentment.
Viola Davis is often quoted as saying, "forgiveness is giving up hope that the past could've been different."
Unsolicited artistic contributions to many, many places will get you a cease & desist letter, because, and I'm just regurgitating stuff I've read on the internet, accepting these contributions opens the recipients to possible law suits in the future. You can find many examples online where young kids wrote to someone they admired and loved and received a C&D letter from a bunch of lawyers. I blame the horribly broken copyright system.
I think I read something somewhere about this sort of thing happening with movie scripts. The issue is that if somebody sends in the script and anyone in the studio actually looked at the script, and then didn't make a movie based on it the scriptwriter now has all sorts of opportunities to sue the studio if they ever make something that uses so much as a single word used in that script (not literally, but things like broad concepts might be replicated between scripts). Because they could argue they are not being compensated for their work. Even if the studio never even wanted the damn script.
This happened with a little kid who sent Steve Jobs some ideas. TV news made a big deal about it (local, probably) because whatever. Oh look, here're some cats in hats on sail boats! Everybody do a dance.
This was a major plot point of the movie Airheads. The record label guy wouldn't accept their demo so they took over a radio station to force it to be played publicly so the record execs would be able to hear it.
Taking everything at face value and rolling with it, wtf did this guy think when his therapist said "think about forgiveness"?
Maybe this person is onto something. The next time somebody wrongs me, I'm going to write a song, hire a publicist, and make an entire big deal about forgiving that person! /s
A lot of people think of forgiveness as something that only happens when the "offending" party falls to their knees to repent for their actions. They can't move on with their lives until they receive closure from someone who may not even realize they did anything that requires being forgiven for, and so these people often hold onto their hurt until it festers and becomes an obsession.
This crazy rant actually contains a good example of this. Forgiving someone else who has wronged you, helps you more than anyone. Remember, forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting what happened or "losing" to someone else. It just means you care less about it because you let it go.
Most therapists will tell you to forgive others for your own benefit. This is just a humorous and very obvious example. Taylor Swift doesn't know this guy and he is obviously creating his own problems.
Yeah I envisioned as much. It's almost like some people just don't know how to forgive and move on with life. Maybe they were spoiled too much when they were younger or something lol.
I seriously doubt Taylor Swift did anything to this individual, but taking things again at face value, you just forgive and part of that is just moving on with life. If Taylor Swift really did do anything, then be the bigger person and let her be the one who is miserable.
Sure, PTSD is awful; it can complicate many of these steps. However, a genuine attempt has to be made and this isn't it.
I think it's a cultural conditioning thing, they are brought up to think that forgiveness is an act of mercy, a decision to not seek to punish someone who has wronged them. That it is something that someone would/should ask for, rather than it being an act of letting go of negative emotions.
Being told they should forgive someone means to them that they are in a position of power and have been wronged.
