There are important ballot measures in a ton of states this year as well. If you're in a blue area, there might even be a decent candidate or 2. Always check to see what's happening in your community, if only to prevent harmful stuff from slipping through unopposed.
Your landlord and bosses vote, so you should as well. Don't make things easy for them. Make them require voter suppression to stand a chance. Power will never be given, so it must be seized.
I'm jealous. Here in Canada, our current PM's entire election campaign was based on the promise of scrapping FPTP. Then he reversed course pretty much day 1 after getting elected.
That was by design. BC used a FPTP voting system for the referendum, with multiple options for "which system would you prefer?" and no option for "I would prefer any of these over FPTP." So FPTP "won" while "Not FPTP" had their votes split.
I could be wrong but I remember voting and they actually had it split into two questions. The first was whether you wanted to keep the current system, and the second was if no what system would you prefer. Unfortunately people just decided to stick to what they were familiar with even if it's a flawed system.
From your last paragraph, that's what I was discussing with my spouse. She has been harassed/assaulted. All the women she knows have been as well. Hell my mom was as well. She was telling me about how men started to look at her when she was 12. I cannot put myself in her shoes, but because it's so wide spread it's a no brainer to me that women will choose the bear, and I don't blame them. I hate that there is a hesitation, and I hate that you, and all the women I know went through shit like that.
I appreciate your kind words. Her sharing her experiences with me has been eye opening, im sure a decade ago I would have scoffed at the women choosing the bear, but listening to her stories, and the stories of others has thankfully helped me mature.
Im a little shocked at the general sentiment in this thread, I'm not a woman but most of my friends are afab and just hearing stories about how men will act normal until they're in an isolated situation like the scenario describes makes it a no-brainer why so many people pick bear
There are some issues & experiences that women go through that men will just simply never "get", and that's fine. But invalidating the answers & experiences from women is why I believe there are no longer many women participating in conversations on Lemmy anymore.
I mean.. looking at all this, why would they want to?
Is it controversial to say that I'd rather converse with a bear? Or do you suppose folks get upset about it?
Maybe, just maybe, folks who do not understand it should listen to what women have to say about it? But many are thinking about it completely removed from the contextual experiences of women. It's.. awful.
I realized this a long time ago when I made a simple complaint that I thought women's issues were downplayed a lot here, and in response I was downvoted, ridiculed, people demanded sources for my claims then claimed my sources were invalid for whatever reason they could pull out of their ass, and one person even, and trigger warning on this, told me I should die giving birth to a rapists baby.
I've even picked up a downvote stalker during the course of this whole bear thing. Same time every day somebody goes through and downvotes every single new thing on my profile.
So yeah, Lemmy's never been a great place for women. I only continue to participate because I'm disabled and have so few connections to the outside world that I'll take anything now.
If you don’t get why a lot of women pick the bear, shut the fuck up and listen to why.
ok so im spitballing a little bit here, since this is a cultural divide. Perhaps instead of trying to "empathize, or sympathize" with women, it would be more beneficial for both parties to be capable of meeting on a "level playing field", where experience isn't a factor, because the fundamental problem with experience is that nobody cares until they have it themselves. You ever watch a video of someone who is a master at their craft doing something and going "wow, that must be hard" but then have that subconscious thought of "i could totally do this if i wanted to" which you probably could, but you're almost certainly going to underestimate the amount of effort required. As is a pretty typical for a human.
you have to remember that you exist inside a small bubble, specifically a small bubble made of three inch thick plate steel, like it's the pressure hull of a submarine. You need to come outside of that bubble in order to be able to interact with others. Which in this case, probably means explicitly identifying that the very real fear that you have is completely insane/unfounded, and shouldn't exist. And then it would probably be beneficial to cover why. Because the why is the underlying problem. Nobody cares about the problem at hand, they only care about the solution that fixes it.
The only thing that normal people with an outside perspective, and the inability to have the experiences listed (i.e. men in this case) are going to see is (to use an example from my life) is that i don't like interacting with people, as I'm dysfunctional (for no particular reason, i just don't like people) and as a result, when i have to interact with people, it's often very weird and uncomfortable. But instead of someone else seeing me as a person who doesn't like social norms and rules and just doesn't follow them, they see someone who is quite literally a dysfunctional human being, who cannot do the one job that they are supposed to be able to do.
The difference here is that i am acutely aware of this fact, and often like to abuse it, because it makes other people uncomfortable, and i think being uncomfortable is a healthy thing. Social rules? Yeah turns out you can just not follow them, nobody cares. You wash your hair regularly? Stop doing it, see how many people actually care, which if they do care, you don't have to care about them either. As long as you aren't being an actual asshole people simply do not have the time of day to think about it. Most people don't even understand this, because they don't even understand the concept of social rules. Social rules are how you interact, not a way to interact, for most people.
if you don't understand the spiel i've given just prior, it's the same exact reason people don't understand you. And if you understand it, than good on you, it's the reason you think that this is going to understood by everybody. It's important to remember that everybody is not capable of understanding everything, nor are they capable of experiencing everything. It's really difficult to communicate across that gap effectively, but once you can, it works really fucking well. (the underlying problem here is the same reason that racism continued to exist for so long, and does to this day in smaller capacity. It's the same reason people were scared about gay marriage, and it's the same reason people are scared of trans people now. These people don't know how to understand these things, so they just don't. That's where bigotry comes from.)
Anyway, i only left this comment after seeing how much of an apparent cultural misunderstanding there seems to be around this. I know i certainly didn't understand it initially. I could see the reasoning behind it, but that doesn't mean i understood it properly, to me it was just people yelling about nonsensical shit in lieu of making a good point, and it seems like that was almost what was happening, but that's besides the point now. I see no other reason for this to be so hotly debated otherwise.
Stop antagonizing all men. There is a low probability that random men will sa you, there is very high probability that bear will eat you alive while you experience both pain and violence role-playing a KFC meal
It is fucking atrocious that you attacked a person sharing their experiences with “stop antagonizing all men.”
Right there she was expressing how every time she speaks up she gets immediately shut down, and there you were to do it again. This is me calling you out for it. Shame.
So there's this company called flock safety. They provide license plate cameras for the majority of police departments in the US. They're talking about providing another service in order to do traffic analysis. It won't be too long until they start selling data to advertising companies. You would say, so what they can't know who I am based on a licence plate. Guess what? If you go to a gas station they could take a picture of your license plate and corelate it with your credit card in order to find your name. Imagine driving down the road and having targeted ads on a billboard.
turns out capitalism is highly dependent on making workers produce an excess of value and then claiming that excess value for the owners! i wonder if anyone has written anything about that
It's also very funny, when someone shares the idea of a 4-day work week (while the wages stay the same as before during a 5-day work week) many are like "that is not possible, how should it be possible to compensate that?" And nobody ever says that about unpaid overtime. Which is a unbelievable high sum each year!
The year was 2015 and a friend who lives in a school bus visited town. We were all smoking weed in his bus and he said "Oh please let Clinton loose". I asked WTF are you thinking? And he responded that he spent lots of time protesting and that it didn't work because people weren't listening. It seems no matter how many terrible fascists get elected, liberals still won't listen to him.
Liberals never pay attention to popular protests unless the talking heads on TV tell them to.
I lost my faith in American "Democracy" during Occupy Wall Street, when the national media completely shut out any of the actual demands being made in favor of a "they don't even have any goals" narrative.
I still remember how well that propaganda worked on people. It became commonplace for liberals to complain that the OWS protests were aimless and lacked message.
Even when liberals are shown protests on TV, they often walk away with the wrong message. It seems the only time it doesn't happen is when the state uses violence in a way that is indefensible.
I protested at the DNC years ago with an anti-war group. Liberals won’t listen to anything that even remotely pushes them out of their comfort zone. They’d rather keep voting until something magically changes (it won’t), or they waste the rest of their time criticizing you for “allowing the right to win.”
I have to say, it’s pretty fucking annoying to be scolded by liberals that do nothing but fill in a circle, while you’re doing things like marching to protest war, writing articles, participating in things like Food Not Bombs… meanwhile, they are in a state of malfunction because you refuse to vote for one of the two right-wing candidates propped up in front of us by the ruling class so we can do the same old song and dance again while thinking something will be different this time.
He doesn't protest anymore, but I get your point. As noted elsewhere, the protests got more attention because the responses were more violent. Is that good? Considering how the police have even more money than before I am not so sure...
yeah turns out that pesky international policy liberals barely pay attention to? fucking us over big time. and by us i mean almost the entirety of the not-western world.
and it really doesnt matter how much you try to talk to them, i guess they will not care (or just pretend to) until its too late for they themselves.
I don't give a fuck about sending my children on a trans field trip. Everyone should be comfortable and happy with their bodies. Spreading knowledge and education on the subject is key to achieving this!
Fuck dentists though! They just like to SCRAPE at your teeth. They make your gums BLEED. They charge you money for these OBSCENE services?!? They think they are so smart because they are a dOcToR.
If you are trans, that is cool and I love you for who you are. However, you won't get a pass from me for spreading your dentalism ideologies to my kids!!! 😤😤😤😤 🦅🇺🇲🦅🇺🇲
Just in case, because the Internet is weird: this comment was satire. My dentist is actually a cool dude and my dental hygienist is amazing.
Take care of your teeth y'all! 🦷🪥
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In the spirit of good health, something is better than nothing!
Dentists hate calculus. They just want people to follow their orders and not ask any questions. Brush in a circle! No bloody gums! You need to floss more. BECAUSE I SAID SO.
I usually try to keep an eye out for critiques that include something in the world they actually enjoy.
It's always easy to say you don't like something. Just like being a picky eater.
In the world of the critic, many often live in constant fear of ever sticking their own necks out by adding or comparing something they like in the conversation. The moment it's admitted that they enjoy something, it's an opportunity for critique from someone just like them and nobody wants that.
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