To quote two:
“If your workplace is dominated by extroverts who criticize those who prefer to work alone — or skip after-work cocktails — as “not team players,” it may inadvertently alienate gifted people.”
“there is no difference in conforming responses given to high- and low-pressure levels by introverts.”
It feels like they described #autistic me. Then again, I'm an #INFP ( / #Introvert) type of autistic, so it fits.
In addition, I experienced that “not team players” from some managers from a certain company years ago. I don't join after-work cocktails, or any party, and was branded as “not a team player” by some of those in position. I was actually very glad I did not because I later found out they force people to drink, and I can't because I have #gout (other than the fact, you can't make me drink if I don't want to).
Anyway. What about you, my fellow #ActuallyAutistics? Or, are you an extrovert autistic yet still find similarities from the article and studies mentioned in it?
some people enjoy bars etc. so they really don't mind; some build meaningful personal relationships with their work friends; some are on salary (aka "unpaid overtime"); some see off-the-clock socializing as a worthwhile sacrifice to benefit their career
that said, yeah, bullies gonna bully, and unempathetic NTs gonna take your personality personally
I always pushed for work lunches or during the day activities, rather than "optional" after work activites. There are so many reasons why this works out better, child care, alcoholism recovery, I'm not getting paid for this time, etc., that lunch events solve.
The Guardian published a study where men who drank with bosses after work made 11% more than those who didn't, women made 14% more.