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JeremyMallin

@JeremyMallin@autistics.life

Recently identified late Dx Autistic he/him. Artist, designer, engineer.

Avatar: Full color selfie photo of me, a 51 year-old white man in a blue and white striped button down dress shirt, wearing eyeglasses

Background: A 3D rendering of a rainbow colored arrangement of rows of Crayola crayons created by me in Lightwave with textures I created in Illustrator

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JeremyMallin , to News from fediverse
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I like following accounts from different countries on here. I have not found very many (any really) accounts from Asian or African countries though. Are there not that many on Fedi yet, or am I just not finding the right ones?

JeremyMallin , to Random stuff
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The same N-95, KN-95, and equivalent respirators that protect you from airborne contagious disease also provide protection from wildfire smoke.

JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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Does anyone ever consider learning sign language not because they can't speak, but just because sometimes they don't want to? Or don't feel up to it?
@actuallyautistic

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@UnCoveredMyths @actuallyautistic 💔

JeremyMallin , to Random stuff
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I kind of miss sometimes how in the old place, random celebrities would sometimes pop up in my mentions (even some of the ones I didn't know were celebrities and had to look up) 🤪

JeremyMallin OP ,
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I often have a very different idea of who is a celebrity than most people have.

Examples: that physicist whose books I've read, the managing editor of that scientific journal I've heard of, that one (more than one actually) stand-up comedian that no one has ever heard of, that obscure author whose books I love, et al.

I wonder if that's an autism thing?

@actuallyautistic

JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I finished season one of A Kind Of Spark. Thank you everyone for recommending it. It is excellent and extremely relatable.

Also. It's based on a book by Elle McNicoll if anyone is interested.

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JeremyMallin , to Random stuff
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Weren't the second, third, fifth, seventh, and eleventh directives all prime directives too?

JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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What do frequently cracking joints have to do with Autism and how do I make it stop? 😭

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JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I believe that autistic burnout is something that other people do to us rather than something we do to ourselves.

It's not simply that we mask too much or work too hard; society requires us to do those things. The choice is not ours.

Those are not the only things that cause burnout. Bigotry and abuse from others also causes burnout. Constant sensory Hell also causes burnout. Anything that keeps us out of equilibrium causes burnout.


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yourautisticlife , to ActuallyAutistic group
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@actuallyautistic

I've seen people use the NPR@press.coop address.

For the sake of people who don't know, NPR@press.coop is a bot. The messages sent to that address are not read by anyone. I presume they are immediately discarded.

I've defederated from the entire press.coop site because it is just a collection of bots.

I am in favor of the press being in the fediverse, but only if they are here fully, and can answer our messages.

JeremyMallin ,
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@yourautisticlife @actuallyautistic
I would prefer accounts with actual humans who can respond and be responded to, but I'm ok with bots as a lesser substitute as long as we can still be kept up to date on a variety of topics by reasonably reputable sources.

JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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What are the most autistic-friendly places (cities, countries, etc.) in the world to live?

@actuallyautistic

JeremyMallin OP ,
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@Tyr @actuallyautistic Thanks for that. I'm surprised that England sounds like it was the best of the three. I've never been there though.

JeremyMallin , to News from fediverse
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I'm mildly curious about the inner workings of Activity Pub.

If someone has a hashtag in a single post and a million people repost that same post, does that make that hashtag trend?

Or does it have to be a million distinct and separate posts that all use that hashtag?

Ie. Do reposts affect it?

JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I originally thought the hashtag ActuallyAutistic was specifically that in part because many of us (as I do) overuse the word "actually".—I learned a long time ago its true origin and meaning though.

I was curious (and still am) what other words we tend to overuse. For me I've come up with these so far:

• actually
• indeed
• fascinating
• interesting

Are there any other common ones?
@actuallyautistic

JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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How come noticing minute facial asymmetries in people is considered an autism thing? And if it is, what causes it? Do NTs really not notice these things?

For the record, I very often do recognize asymmetries others don't.

@actuallyautistic

JeremyMallin OP ,
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@pathfinder @actuallyautistic
LOL. You just described me perfectly.

JeremyMallin OP ,
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@Nazani @actuallyautistic Me too. I used to just think it was an artist thing too.

Uair , to ActuallyAutistic group
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@actuallyautistic

Are normal people hungry all the time?

I sunk out of panic mode for a couple days and goddamn if my stomach isn't a lot more aggressive than usual. I hardly ever notice it, normally.

Is this a thing? Constant hunger when you finally calm down?

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@PonderosaJohn @Uair @actuallyautistic
I've also been coming across the benefits of vitamin D for a whole host of issues in all sorts of articles lately. Who knew? 🤷‍♂️

JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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Do neurotypical people not have to mask at all? Are they just themselves? How does that work?

@actuallyautistic

davidho , to Random stuff
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The best-selling vehicle in France vs. the US.

JeremyMallin ,
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@davidho I prefer the French one.

JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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It seems that I'm better at dealing with major life or death emergencies that every day struggles. Why is that? Is that autistic thing?

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JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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As someone who is actually autistic, should I use the ActuallyAutistic hashtag every time I talk about autism, or only sometimes, for more serious philosophical posts about autism? Or maybe only for my own personal experiences as someone who is autistic?

What do you do?

@actuallyautistic

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@melindrea @actuallyautistic
I can relate to both of those cases. That sounds very much like what my gut instinct was too.

JeremyMallin OP ,
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@yourautisticlife @actuallyautistic

I think I also feel compelled to use the hashtag when I'm not sure if something I say might be taken the wrong way by other Autistics—sort of as a disclaimer, that I too am autistic.

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@yourautisticlife @actuallyautistic
Yeah, I mostly only tag the group when I'm seeking input too.

JeremyMallin OP ,
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@angelastella @randallwhite @benjamincox @actuallyautistic
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JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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Re: CAT-Q—Is this bad?
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JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I realized that the overwhelming majority of my sense humor is just taking things hyperliterally even before I realized I was autistic. 😆

@actuallyautistic

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@EverBeyondReach @actuallyautistic
Indeed! 😆

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eonity , to ActuallyAutistic group
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Am I the only one here who has an irrational fear of being seen as a shoplifter when out shopping? Or is it just me and a small minority of people?

Tagging my fellow @actuallyautistic crowd here, is it especially true for you folks?

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@eonity @actuallyautistic
I don't know if autism has something to do with it, but I do too. Maybe it's because we're used to being misunderstood and falsely accused?

JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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In the movie, Crocodile Dundee, when he is surprised by 7 million people all wanting to live together, and everyone laughed, is it an autistic thing to completely understand his level of disbelief and think that it's funny but also not? 🙋‍♂️


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JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I'm curious—how do we feel about any/all of the following labels? Are we ok with them? Offended by them? Have attitudes changed at all recently? I've noticed we don't all use the same vocabulary here.

• on the spectrum
• ASD
• has autism
• with autism
• is autistic
• Autistic
• Autist


@actuallyautistic

mraharrison , to ActuallyAutistic group
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@actuallyautistic Hi all adults over 40, who were late diagnosed like me to share experiences. What's the best thing you did once you knew?

JeremyMallin ,
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@mraharrison @actuallyautistic

• sought out other Autistics online
• found an autistic psychotherapist
• researched the heck out of autism

nddev , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I've thought for a while that a particular colleague of mine is without knowing it.

In this morning's standup, he described how he removes the second hands from all his analogue clocks to make them quieter, because they always tick too loudly. I nodded solemnly and said nothing.


@actuallyautistic

JeremyMallin ,
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@nddev @actuallyautistic
I really kind of like the ticking sound my only analogue clock makes—especially when I'm trying to calm down or take a nap or something.

JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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If you know, you know.

@actuallyautistic

JeremyMallin OP ,
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@Autistrain @actuallyautistic Six shrill beeps if I don't stop it in time. 😵

JeremyMallin OP ,
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@dyani @actuallyautistic
I never knew that. Thank you!

I always thought it had to be disassembled and physically disconnected. I never knew that program that in.

JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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Where are all my fellow autistic Jews?

Were you too forced to have a Bar Mitzvah (or Bat Mitzvah) party and had to invite a bunch of kids you barely knew so that you could fill out a "friends" table?

And then you had to take turns dancing with half of them too even though you were socially awkward and physically clumsy as Hell?

🙋‍♂️


@actuallyautistic

JeremyMallin OP ,
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@rolandelli @actuallyautistic
Ooh. I can't stand perfume. I never understood why anyone likes that.

JeremyMallin OP ,
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@punishmenthurts @actuallyautistic
I hear that. 😆

JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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Watching people on television wear winter clothes including turtle neck sweaters, parkas, and knit hats when it's warm here makes me almost as physically uncomfortable as if I were wearing those things myself.
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theautisticcoach , (edited ) to ActuallyAutistic group
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Do my autistic comrades like driving a car?

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JeremyMallin ,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic
It's complicated.

I don't like driving in the city/suburbs, but I like road trips on interstates with very little traffic.

Uair , to Retro Gaming
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@actuallyautistic

64 bytes of RAM:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Microvision

JeremyMallin ,
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@Uair @actuallyautistic
I had one of these as a kid. I loved it. I also recently recreated it in Blender.

lowqualityfacts , to Random stuff
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That's so wholesome.
https://patreon.com/lowqualityfacts

JeremyMallin ,
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@lowqualityfacts
"Starhugger" would be a good name for a character in a sci-fi comedy series. 😉

"Amanda Starhugger" popped into my head for some reason.

lowqualityfacts , to Random stuff
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Clint Eastwood has some strong opinions about some weird stuff.

JeremyMallin ,
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@lowqualityfacts yeah. Clint Eastwood pretty much ruined Clint Eastwood for me.

He's one of the few celebrities that I hope instead of worry when I see him mentioned on social media.

JeremyMallin , to ActuallyAutistic group
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I think there are autistic coded characters that fly under the radar because they're on shows with other characters that are more obviously autistic coded (or more stereotypically autistic coded).


@actuallyautistic

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@Aerliss @actuallyautistic
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